By Cherrie Garcia
Personal Stories, Real Destinations, & Unfiltered Advice for Adventurous Souls
I used to think the only “adventure” you found on vacation was choosing between the pool and the hot tub. Turns out, there are whole resorts, cruises, and even sleepy beach towns dedicated to adults looking for something a little…extra.
My partner and I started exploring lifestyle travel three years ago after a cruise to Mexico. Since then, we’ve wandered through wild pool parties, intimate playrooms, body-positive dance floors, and welcoming, queer-inclusive spaces. Here’s what I’ve learned on the road—and how you can find your own perfect getaway.
🏝️ Destination Deep Dives: My Top Picks
| Place | Vibe | Why I Love It | Pro Tips |
|---|---|---|---|
| Desire Riviera Maya (Mexico) | Sensual, laid-back, couples-focused | Chic, clothing-optional, couples everywhere. Flirty workshops, amazing food, huge consent culture. Staff is LGBTQ+ friendly and people are diverse in age/body/orientation. | Book early—premium rooms go fast. Try the icebreaker games, even if you’re shy! Bring plenty of sunscreen (and lube). |
| Hedonism II (Jamaica) | Wild, legendary, welcoming | Classic party resort for all relationship types—Instagrammable pool parties, sand, nightly events, and a heady anything-goes energy. No two nights are the same! | Opt for the “Nude” side if you’re brave. Themed nights are a blast—bring costumes! Talk boundaries with your partner before you go. |
| The Pearl (Florida, USA) | Boutique, elegant, playful | More relaxed and private, this place is geared toward couples and small groups. Gorgeous grounds, educational kink/BDSM workshops, and a sweet sense of community. | Arrive during a special event weekend for maximum mingling. Respect “soft swap only” rules if posted! |
| Temptation Cancun (Mexico) | Sexy, high-energy, open to all | Not strictly a swinger resort, but famous for topless fun, wild pool parties, and attitude-free vibes. A good “starter” for nervous newbies. | Use their app to meet others before arrival. Weekdays are quieter, but weekends get spicy. |
| Amsterdam, NL | Urban, open-minded, LGBTQ+ central | City of sex-positive venues, clubs, and underground events—especially true for LGBTQ+ travelers. Check out Club Church or Funhouse for inclusive, themed nights. | Always read club rules online first. Most require membership or pre-registration. Consent is a big deal here. |
🕵️‍♂️ How to Find the Right Place (and Honest Reviews)
- Review Sites:
- SLS (SwingLifestyle) — User reviews, forums, international events.
- Kasidie — Event ratings, resort/travel discussion boards.
- TripAdvisor — Search the forums for “clothing-optional” or “lifestyle friendly.”
- Reddit: Try subs like r/Swingers or r/lifestyletravel for raw, current feedback.
- Official Resort Facebook Groups: Great for direct Q&A and unfiltered photos; admins often approve posts quickly.
👫 Dos and Don’ts of Lifestyle/Liberated Travel
| Do | Don’t |
|---|---|
| Communicate honestly with your partner—boundaries, expectations, and after-care. | Feel pressured to participate in anything—watching is totally cool! |
| Research events and venue policies. Ask about inclusivity, consent, and available amenities. | Disregard rules—especially around phones, privacy, and playroom etiquette. |
| Pack comfy, fun attire. Theme nights are fun, but body positivity is even hotter. | Forget essentials—condoms, lube, wet wipes, aftercare snacks! |
| Check local laws. Some countries are less tolerant—know before you go. | Assume everyone is there for the same reason or will be into you—be friendly, but respect “No” as the ultimate answer. |
| Embrace the community! Lifestyle travelers are usually welcoming, funny, and real. | Share people’s stories/photos without explicit permission. |
| Practice enthusiastic consent. “Yes” should sound excited, “No” means the next adventure might be better! | Treat staff or other guests like entertainment—they’re people first. |
🔥 My 3 Big Takeaways (from a Traveler Who’s Blushed, Bonded, and Brought Home New Toys)
- You don’t have to fit a stereotype. I’ve met seniors, queer couples, shy introverts, and supermodels at every single event. The world is bigger (and kinkier) than you think—there’s a circle for everyone.
- Nothing beats feeling safe and wanted. The best resorts obsess over inclusivity and consent. If you feel unsafe or unwelcome, leave—the right fit is out there.
- Most people are there for connection, not just sex. Don’t put pressure on yourself. I’ve shared late-night tacos and sunrise swims with new friends as treasured as the steamiest moments.
🛎️ Recommended Next Steps
- Join a forum like SLS or Kasidie to read real-time reviews before booking.
- Search destination hashtags on Instagram/TikTok for vibe checks and outfit inspo (but remember: always ask before filming at venues).
- Reach out to people in private groups—90% are happy to answer newbie questions anonymously.
- Bookmark this blog—I’ll be sharing packing lists, interviews with longtime travelers, and deep-dive reviews all summer!
Got questions about a specific spot, identity, or kink? Drop them below or DM (confidentially—always)! Let’s make this space the ultimate resource for real people, real love, and the world’s best adult adventures. 💫
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